Brian described it best to me when I was first diagnosed at how people will react. He said at first everyone will wear you out with phone calls, visits, cards, etc. At the very beginning of my diagnosis only a few friends and family members knew. When I posted my blog, the word spread like rapid fire, and I was hearing from people that I had not heard from in years. People continued to notify me throughout the next few months, and then just as Brian had said they were all gone. Each and everyone had gone about their daily lives, but I was still stuck fighting for my life. I still had treatments to attend, and doctor appointment after doctor appointment. This process does make you realize who is there for you through thick and thin.
My advise to everyone that is part of a support group for other cancer fighters is to not just text them periodically to see how they are feeling, but invite them to go to lunch, the movies, or just take a walk in the park. Show up on their doorstep to just hangout. Ultimately, be there for them. I would not wish this battle on anyone, as it takes a very strong person to make it through, and it is very easy for someone that is battling this journey to fall into a depression. I am forever grateful to have Brian by my side throughout this entire process. Without him, I honestly do not know what I would do. There have been other friends and family members that have helped me through this time, and you know who you are, and I am thankful for all that you have done for me as well. So ultimately, be there for the ones you care about when they need it the most!
Though the texts, phone calls, and messages have stopped, know that you are forever in our thoughts and prayers. Keep your head held high Fritz. We are all so proud of your strength.
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